I’m finally getting around to reading Puritans at Play by Bruce C. Daniels. It’s been in my library for a decade or more, and right from the start it speaks to a concept I’ve struggled with, in one way or another, my entire life. The New England Reverend Benjamin Colman called it “Sober Mirth” —..
..with free advice to women on the subject of being irresistible At age 56, having raised six kids, having been married happily to the same woman for 28 years, having endured the 1980s dating scene, (and even a toxic gauntlet of man-killing feminist Stanford coeds), having come back to Christ, having studied God’s word, I’ve..
Content rule for happy, calm, metro-sexual marriage encounter discussions in church: Make sure you quote “Live with your wives in an understanding way” (1 Peter 3) at least 10 times for every “stop denying one another” (1 Cor 7) reference. This will keep church ladies of both genders from exploding. On second thought, better not..
Words You Might Not Hear in Church A few ways to make peace in the pitched battle between the sexes.. A girl I dated in high school pointed out a guy across the room at a party one night and she said: “he’s prowling. He’s on the hunt. You can just tell. It’s gross.” I..
Can we really build the Kingdom of Heaven with men so bloodless they have never desired a woman? If denying ourselves for Christ were as simple as embarking on a starvation diet, the Kingdom would be built by a legion of ecstatic virgins, stammering repentance as their flesh failed them. Sleepless, sexless, bloodless, without limbs..
I’m fairly certain that when women consider male sexuality, there’s a very thick layer of pure disgust baked into the cake. A friend of mine told me his wife caught their son looking at pornography and her reaction was a mixture of outrage and loathing. She was disgusted with both him and the images. I’m..
A Collective Repentance In “The Reader” (2008) Kate Winslet plays a German woman facing trial for her small part in the Nazi extermination regime, but for the first 30 minutes of the story you would be tempted to conclude it was all bound to be a story about an older woman sexually initiating a younger..
Some of you might need a drink… When a celebrity couple splits up, or their lives go awry in some spectacular way, we aren’t surprised. Very few of those folks espouse any moral sense about divorce, or any reverence for building an inter-generational clan; they are just brownian particles floating on to the next coupling…
In the wake of the Josh Duggar story, it is wise to remember that when a basic human hunger is demonized by church culture, weird things happen to people. Pornography, abuse, homosexuality, infidelity all can be traced to a failure of the church to celebrate sexuality. The church isn’t sexy enough? No, please, I am..
Disclaimer/Warning: I write about sex because I’ve found very few people write or talk about it with much honesty. If the topic makes you uncomfortable, go somewhere else. This won’t be titillating, but I try to make it honest. Consider the terms: “angelic temptress,” “holy playmate,” “virtuous sex kitten.” Can there be such a thing?..